Signs of Attraction

One physical orientation when a girl is interested is she changes her physical orientation. You may have heard the term physical orientation before, but what does it actually mean? Physical orientation isn't just the direction someone is facing; it describes direction, posture, and the distribution of weight across someone's body. These variables change when we're excited by or attracted to another person, and these changes are almost entirely unconscious. Our physical orientation opens and closes depending on the way we're feeling. Now, according to the University of Kansas, flirting in general is an outgrowth of our feelings toward another person.

That's why unconscious movements are some of the most reliable signs of attraction. If you understand what they mean, you can identify when a girl is interested in you. So, let's get specific: what physical orientation shows interest, and what doesn't? Alright, let's say you're at dinner with a girl you like. You're having a good conversation, but you want to know if she likes you as more than a friend. Look at the orientation of her body. Is she turning her body towards you? Is she sitting straight up or leaning slightly in your direction? Now, if her physical orientation looks like this, she's interested in you.

Understanding Body Language

All three of these signs show both interest and attraction. When a girl is drawn to you, she faces your direction, she pays attention to her posture, and she shifts her weight towards you. Alright, let's try another example. This time her physical orientation looks completely different: she's facing away from you, she's slumping forward, and she's leaning her weight backwards. Does this mean she's interested in you? She may be having a good time, but her body language does not show signs of attraction, so she's probably not interested.

Identifying positive and negative body language like this isn't as difficult as it seems; you just have to know what to look for. So, the next time you're with someone you like, pay attention to their physical orientation because their body may be telling you that they like you back.

Sincere Interest

Everyone flirts a little differently, so everyone's interest takes a different shape. But there's one flirting style that gives itself away. When you see this sign of attraction, there's a very good chance that she likes you. This comes from Jeffrey Hall, a professor investigating the different ways people flirt in our culture. By examining thousands of failed and successful relationships, Hall discovered five different flirting styles: physical, polite, playful, traditional, and sincere. We're going to focus on the last style on his list: the sincere flirt.

These people are very particular about who they show interest in. If they're not interested in you, sincerity flies out the window. They rarely make an effort to establish an emotional bond. They will not tell personal stories or take an interest in your life because they care about bonding with you. On the other hand, if they like you, sincere flirts get emotionally invested in you. They make an effort to be interested, vulnerable, and expressive. They use sincerity to show you they want to be more than friends. Look out for this flirting style the next time you're talking to someone you like. She may not brush your arm or engage in playful banter, but her sincere interest could tell you everything you need to know.

Fearless Laughter

How do you laugh when you first meet someone? It's small, reserved, and polite, right? You don't use your real laugh around strangers. Now, on the other hand, think about how you laugh with people you really like. You laugh too loud, and you laugh too long. You don't think about how you look or you sound. You don't laugh just to be polite; you laugh because this person genuinely cracks you up.

If a girl likes you, they'll really laugh around you. It's not just because she likes your sense of humor; it's because she feels comfortable, safe, and happy with you. She can laugh openly because she trusts you to laugh alongside her. Smiles work the same way. If she smiles a wide and natural smile, she's not just being nice. This is especially important if she doesn't laugh or smile around others. If she does these things around you, she may like you as much as you like her.

Physical Interaction

Let's explore another one of Hall's five flirting styles: the physical flirt. She may not be interested in your life or emotions, but that doesn't mean she isn't interested in you. Physical flirts are far and away the most interactive of the five categories. If she likes you, she'll show her interest by making physical contact with you. Sometimes these touches are small and subtle; other times they're open and obvious.

But keep this in mind: if a physical flirt makes contact with you, it doesn't automatically mean she likes you. Physical flirts use contact to gauge interest. If the other person responds positively, a physical flirt may keep testing the waters. Instead of simply brushing your hand, she might lay her entire hand on yours. Why? Because she wants to see how you react. So, how do you know when a physical flirt likes you and when they're just playing around? If they're being physical with you, they're trying to get your attention.

Signs of Jealousy

Does she get quiet when you talk to other girls? Does her mood worsen when a girl enters the conversation? Many girls get jealous in the early stages of a relationship. When she likes you, she may get annoyed when you show interest in another person. You'd react the same way, right? If you saw your crush talking to another guy, you might get jealous. You might steal back their attention or maybe you'd mope quietly until they come back to you. Either way, pay close attention to her mood when you talk to another girl. If she gets irritated, she may be feeling jealous. If she's feeling jealous, it's safe to say that she likes you back.

When someone you like talks, you hang on their every word. You listen closer to them than anyone else. It doesn't matter what you're doing or who else is talking. When they have something to say, they become the center of your world. If your crush likes you, they'll feel the same way when you speak. They'll stop everything to listen to you, and when you talk, they'll really look at you. This sign can be difficult to see on your own, so enlist a little help.

Summary Table

Signs	Description
Body Orientation	Turns body towards you, sits straight up, leans in your direction
Sincere Interest	Gets emotionally invested, tells personal stories, expresses interest
Fearless Laughter	Laughs openly and genuinely, smiles wide and naturally
Physical Interaction	Makes physical contact, tests your reaction
Jealousy	Gets quiet or irritated when you talk to other girls

Ask the people who spend time with both of you together: do they notice the special way she looks at you? Does she ignore everybody else when you talk? If you become the center of her world, just like she becomes the center of yours, you know that she likes you back.

Does she seem extra playful around you? When she's around someone she likes, her personality shines. She may be shy, awkward, and quiet with the rest of the world, but with you, she's talkative, playful, and outgoing. She may seem like a completely different person. That's because she can be herself around you. She's comfortable pushing those boundaries, taking risks, and stepping out of her comfort zone.

If she comes out of her shell when you're alone, she may think of you as someone special. If a girl likes you, she may change more than her personality around you. You may notice she gives you special treatment. She may cross boundaries that she doesn't cross with anyone else. For example, she may make contact with you but remain distant from the rest of the world.

To figure out if you're getting special treatment, pay attention to her normal behavior. Is she touchy around other people? Is she touchy around you? Does she laugh with everybody? How much does she laugh with you? If there's a big positive difference in the way she acts, I've got some good news for you: there's a good chance that she likes you.

Recognizing Interest

How often does she say your name out loud? When you like someone, saying their name makes you happy. You want to talk about them; you want to hear about them. They're on your mind constantly, so their name is always on the tip of your tongue. If a girl likes you, she'll do the same thing. She'll say your name more than she needs to. She'll bring you up in conversations and talk about things you did together. Once again, you may need help from your friends with this one.

If they notice her saying your name all the time, that's a big sign of romantic interest. Alright, let's say you ask out a girl you like. You build up the courage to ask her to dinner, but she said no. Does that mean she doesn't like you? Not necessarily. If she says no and the conversation ends, she probably doesn't like you. But what if she says this: I can't go tonight, could we go next weekend instead? If she tries to reschedule, she wants to see you. She wants to spend time with you. She's only saying no because she really is busy. So, don't lose hope the moment she says no. If she likes you, she'll make time to be alone together.

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